Were you ever about to do something – and then suddenly, that voice inside your head starts talking?
Why did you do that? That was bad. This looks nowhere close to perfect. You will never achieve anything in life.
That negative voice inside your head that judges, criticizes, or demeans you is your inner critic. Your inner critic plays a critical role in how you see yourself and your self-esteem.
When you don’t know how to deal with your inner critic, you can feel worthless, or low on self-esteem. Your inner critic might undermine your every accomplishment. Or it might show up as you enter a room full of people you’ve never met before. That harsh inner critic can lead to self-doubt or lack of confidence.
When you let your inner critic control too many of your actions, it could hold you back from things like growth, connection, and your full potential.
Even though the way we think influences how we behave, those thoughts we have are not always true! If someone feels insecure and believes no one wants to talk to them, how charismatic do you think they will be in social settings?
Follow these strategies to deal with your inner critic and take control of that voice:
1. Acknowledge and understand. When negative thoughts come up, acknowledge your thoughts. Try to understand the source of where those thoughts are coming from.
● How do I feel right now?
● Why do I feel this way?
● What are some patterns I recognize?
● Where do these thoughts come from?
● How do these thoughts affect my behavior?
2. What advice would you give a friend? If a friend came to you in the same situation as you feel, what advice would you give to them? Many times, we are harder on ourselves than we are with others.
3. Separate facts from feelings. Your brain might be hardwired to think that no one wants to talk to you or that you’re a bad person. But is that actually a fact? Practice sorting through facts and your feelings.
4. Practice self-acceptance, self-compassion and reminding yourself that everyone has an inner critic.
– Replace negative or critical thoughts with accepting and compassionate ones. Have a selection of empowering, compassionate beliefs that you can tell yourself instead of succumbing to negative ones.
– Remind yourself that everyone has an inner critic. Having an inner critic is a human function. It comes from the parts of our brain that evolved to protect ourselves.
– If you find yourself in a loop of critical thoughts, remind yourself that every human experiences self-doubt at one point or another.
5. Distract yourself when you start replaying mistakes in your head. Have you ever made a mistake and replayed those moments over and over again? That doesn’t resolve the issue. If you find you’re ruminating instead of actively problem-solving, distract yourself from those thoughts.
● Take a walk.
● Read a book.
● Listen to a podcast.
● Play a game.
6. Write down positive thoughts. When your inner critic comes out, what is it saying? How can you challenge your inner critic?
What strengths of yours can you use to silence the inner critic?
Think of the times when you were at your best and what your inner voice said then?
Your inner critic does not have to control your life! Taking these steps to silence your inner critic and nurture a more empowering inner dialogue can help you grow and expand your horizons.
There’s a difference between that harmful voice telling you that you are not good enough and the voice that inspires you to take action in spite of the fear wanting to improve yourself. Use the tips above to silence your inner critic so you can reach your full potential.
Have you taken notice of inner critic talking to you yet?
